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If you answered a yes to most of the questions, chances are you are being 'too nice'.
Is that a problem, you ask ? Let's break it down for you.
Being too nice comes out a few factors :
Notice that I have used 'we','us' and 'our' in the above terms. As humans,we crave love and emotional bonding, so it is extremely normal to fall into the trap.
1. Low self esteem : People pleasing means we depend on others a lot for validation and our choices are driven by their response. This weakens our sense of self.
2. Constant Dissatisfaction : Since our focus is not what we really want or like, we always end up unhappy with our life.
3. Emotional Burnout : We often take extra steps and give way more than we take from others. This emotionally drains us.
All in all, affects our own mental peace.
You're asked to do something, and you feel you should say no. However, if you say no, you'll be resented, so you are tempted to say yes. If you say yes, you're going to be frustrated with yourself and angry with them.
Research shows this cycle of awful feelings does damage to your relationships.
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