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You are TOO Nice.

You are TOO Nice.

  • Do you walk an extra mile for people ALL the time?
  • Do you blame yourself in difficult situations ?
  • Do you end up feeling frustrated in uncomfortable situations ?
  • Do you always ask yourself what did I do wrong ?
  • Do you end up feeling overwhelmed ?

If you answered a yes to most of the questions, chances are you are being 'too nice'.

Is that a problem, you ask ? Let's break it down for you.


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Am I being nice or needy ?

Am I being nice or needy ?

Being too nice comes out a few factors :

  • Fear of abandonment : Fear that people would leave us
  • People pleasing : We are not comfortable with people not liking us
  • Neediness : Our need of emotional support and clinginess
  • Fear of being alone : We are afraid of ending up alone

Notice that I have used 'we','us' and 'our' in the above terms. As humans,we crave love and emotional bonding, so it is extremely normal to fall into the trap.


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Why is it a problem to be too nice ?

Why is it a problem to be too nice ?

1. Low self esteem : People pleasing means we depend on others a lot for validation and our choices are driven by their response. This weakens our sense of self.

2. Constant Dissatisfaction : Since our focus is not what we really want or like, we always end up unhappy with our life.

3. Emotional Burnout : We often take extra steps and give way more than we take from others. This emotionally drains us.

All in all, affects our own mental peace.


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Don't be stupid.

Don't be stupid.

"Be compassionate,be kind,be helpful, just don't be stupid"

- Anonymous


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