FOLLOW Sabotaging yourself Sabotaging yourself and your relationships create unnecessary pain and self-generated stress.
To stop sabotaging yourself, you must first recognize when you’re getting in your own way. You need to figure out your patterns of behavior and then find creative ways to counteract them and form new habits.
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FOLLOW Why You're Sabotaging Your Relationships (And How To Stop)
Do you sometimes find that you sabotage yourself in your work or your relationships? Have you wondered why you would do that? One of the things that may help you understand your self-sabotaging behavior is to recognize that you are actually trying to protect yourself rather than sabotage yourself.
Why You Self-Sabotage For many people, the fear of rejection and the fear of engulfment keep them out of relationships.
These fears are based on false beliefs, such as success or failure defines my worth as...
How You Self-Sabotage Relationships: You keep yourself isolated. You make so many demands on your partner that he or she feels smothered and ends the relationship. You judge everyone you meet as not being good enough for you. Work: You keep putting off looking for the kind of job you want. You are able to work, and say you want to, but keep living off other means. You stay in a job that you hate. You keep yourself uneducated regarding doing what you really want to do. Healing Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior Notice self-judgments. Shift your definition of your worth, from outcomes to effort. Decide that you will define your worth by the loving actions you take for yourself and others. Consciously see mistakes and failure as stepping stones to success, rather than as definitions of your worth. Learn to be kind and compassionate toward your own feelings. Make a decision that you are willing to lose another person rather than lose yourself. FOLLOW Self-sabotage Self-sabotage can be defined as the action through which you undermine your worth and goals. Even though you want something, you do actions that are contrary to achieving your targ... Self-sabotage and its diversity
Self-sabotage can appear in our lives under many shapes:
procrastination: putting off what we should be doing now substance abuse: consuming alcohol and drug often leads to us not reaching our goals chronic lateness: this will usually result in you being perceived as a not so trustworthy person stress eating: we all know the end of this one- poor diet or even illness intimacy and commitment issues: the negative consequence refers to you ending up alone. Self-sabotage and its causes
Studies revealed two main causes of self-sabotage:
modeling: individuals tend to self-sabotage as they grew up seeing this in their parents' behavior power: persons may tend to self-sabotage by entering into relationships with people who are, one way or another, inferior to them Deepstash is better on the app. Discover new ideas and get inspired daily. GET THE APP SIGN IN