deepstash
Beta
Sneaky Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
Fight other sneaky self-sabotaging behaviors by owning your impact. Don't hand over the control of your behaviors, attitudes and sense of self-worth to other people without thinking.
MORE IDEAS FROM THE ARTICLE
Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals.
- Don't let others dictate your behavior. Choose your responses to situations rather than reacting to them.
- Don't let others dictate your attitude. You can control your attitudes, responses and actions, but little else.
- Don't let others devalue your sense of self. The act of comparison can lead to internal conflict and lack of self-confidence.
RELATED IDEAS
Self-sabotage can appear in our lives under many shapes:
- procrastination: putting off what we should be doing now
- substance abuse: consuming alcohol and drug often leads to us not reaching our goals
- chronic lateness: this will usually result in you being perceived as a not so trustworthy person
- stress eating: we all know the end of this one- poor diet or even illness
- intimacy and commitment issues: the negative consequence refers to you ending up alone.
Self-destructive behaviors can become habits and can continually undermine your success and happiness.
Self-sabotage is when we want something, but somehow we never accomplish it, because somewhere deep in our subconscious we’re fighting against that goal:
- Our disorganization distracts us.
- We’re constantly overthinking all of our decisions.
Journal about the experiences in your relationship that trigger behaviors you experience as self-sabotaging. Ask yourself: What was happening? What did you feel at the time? What were you afraid of? How likely is it that the outcome you feared would happen?
Having an awareness of what triggers these behaviors can prepare us for the inevitable conflicts that arise.