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Three Tips To Avoid Sneaky Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
Sneaky Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
Fight other sneaky self-sabotaging behaviors by owning your impact. Don't hand over the control of your behaviors, attitudes and sense of self-worth to other people without thinking.
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Self-sabotaging Behavior
Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals.
Avoid self-sabotaging
- Don't let others dictate your behavior. Choose your responses to situations rather than reacting to them.
- Don't let others dictate your attitude. You can control your attitudes, responses and actions, but little else.
- Don't let others devalue your sense of self. The act of comparison can lead to internal conflict and lack of self-confidence.
Sneaky Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
Fight other sneaky self-sabotaging behaviors by owning your impact. Don't hand over the control of your behaviors, attitudes and sense of self-worth to other people without thinking.
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Self-sabotage can be defined as the action through which you undermine your worth and goals. Even though you want something, you do actions that are contrary to achieving your targ...
Self-sabotage and its diversity
Self-sabotage can appear in our lives under many shapes:
- procrastination: putting off what we should be doing now
- substance abuse: consuming alcohol and drug often leads to us not reaching our goals
- chronic lateness: this will usually result in you being perceived as a not so trustworthy person
- stress eating: we all know the end of this one- poor diet or even illness
- intimacy and commitment issues: the negative consequence refers to you ending up alone.
Self-sabotage and its causes
Studies revealed two main causes of self-sabotage:
- modeling: individuals tend to self-sabotage as they grew up seeing this in their parents' behavior
- power: persons may tend to self-sabotage by entering into relationships with people who are, one way or another, inferior to them
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Identify your triggers
Journal about the experiences in your relationship that trigger behaviors you experience as self-sabotaging. Ask yourself: What was happening? What did you feel at the time? What were you afraid of? How likely is it that the outcome you feared would happen?
Having an awareness of what triggers these behaviors can prepare us for the inevitable conflicts that arise.
Be mindful of your behavior
Insecurity in relationships is inevitable because everybody has issues to work on.
It’s critical to know what yours are. With this insight, a person can then stop negative behaviors, learn to tolerate the discomfort, and engage in alternative and more healthy behavior.
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Self-sabotage
Understand self-sabotage
Self-destructive behaviors can become habits and can continually undermine your success and happiness.
Self-sabotage is when we want something, but somehow we never accomplish it, because somewhere deep in our subconscious we’re fighting against that goal:
- Our disorganization distracts us.
- We’re constantly overthinking all of our decisions.
Recognize self-sabotaging habits
- Procrastination. Start setting deadlines and mini-deadlines to work toward your objective.
- Negative self-talk/negative thinking. Be patient with yourself; be kind to yourself. Work to build yourself up.
- Perfectionism. It is an impossible standard that keeps you from moving forward.
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