We tend to envy people with whom we compare ourselves. Your social comparison group is the group by which you measure yourself. We envy achievements that we think are possibilities for us but we don’t feel confident in achieving them.

We are more likely t...

Just because you have negative thoughts doesn’t mean you have to believe them. The advantage of cognitive therapy is coming up with more helpful, more adaptive, and more realistic ways of thinking. Look at the table above and see if any of the negative automatic thoughts are familiar...

You find yourself thinking:

• They don’t deserve this.
• They think they are superior to me.
• They are superior to me.
• I can’t stand being around them.
• I hope they fail.

And then-

• This reflects how inferior I am.
• I keep...

• As mentioned earlier, envy often leads us to become depressed, anxious , and angry.
• We ruminate about what has happened.
• We dwell on the unfairness or our sense of futility.
• We avoid seeing the other person, because it reminds us that we are falling b...