Research has found that using the phrase “I can’t” results in decreased self-control when compared to using the words “I don’t”.When trying to break bad habits say “I don’t [bad habit]” instead of “I can’t [bad habit]” .

Use “I Don’t” Instead Of “I Can’t” 

Our habits are driven by a 3-part loop in sequence: trigger (the stimulus that starts the habit), routine (the doing of the habit and behaviour itself) and reward (the benefit associated with the behaviour).Each repetition of this behavior pattern, it becomes more ingrained in your brain until it eventually becomes automatic—a habit.

The Mechanics Of Habit Formation 

“The secret to permanently breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.”

It gives you an automatic response to react to your cravings and makes it easier to replace a bad habit with a good one: <ul><li>Identify the scenario that usually triggers your bad habit.</li><li>Specify a different response to the trigger. Ideally, this should be a good habit that would replace and prevent you from falling into the temptation.</li><li>Combine steps 1 and 2 into an “if-then” format.</li></ul>

Creating An “If-Then” Plan

Bad habits don’t go away overnight. But, you can use strategies to give you that extra boost of self-confidence and self-control required to change.Understand that sometimes you will fail and sometimes you’ll succeed. But no matter how long it takes to fail and get back up again, your patience and perseverance will soon pay off.

The Role Of Perseverance On Change

Mindfulness practice helps to weaken the link between the craving and the bad behaviour: <ul><li>Next time you’re hit with an urge to do the bad habit, take a step back and be aware of the sensations of the trigger in your body.</li><li>Take note of where you were and when the cravings started, as well as who were you with and what happened leading to it. </li><li>Keep a short journal of your progress and take quick notes of the events that take place on the days you act on the bad habit versus the days you don’t.</li></ul>

Practice Being Aware Of Your Triggers

1. Use the words "I don't" instead of "I can't." Using the words "I don't" instead of "I can't" could actually help you to make better choices. In a research study published in the Journal of Consumer Research, 120 students were first split into two different groups.

Use “I Don’t” Instead Of “I Can’t”

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3. Use positive instead of negative self-talk

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