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Words frame your sense of empowerment and control

I don’t” is experienced as a choice, so it feels empowering. “I can’t” isn’t a choice, is a restriction.

In other words, the phrase "I don't" is a psychologically empowering way to say no, while the phrase "I can't" is a psychologically draining way to say no.

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