Do not fight your emotions
Experiencing negative emotions is not a problem, in and of itself.
- Although it is completely understandable that we might at times beat ourselves up for this predisposition, it is essential not to blame ourselves.
- This does not mean that we do not take actions that will help us deal with difficult emotions. It only means learning to become more comfortable with having these emotions—allowing them to exist for the moment, instead of waging an exhausting and futile war against them.
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