Stop obsessing over what others think of you. - Deepstash

Stop obsessing over what others think of you.

Mindfulness is paying attention, on purpose, to the present moment, without judgment. It’s recognizing what is really going on right now in your mind and in your body.

Mindfulness is noticing the feeling. Usually we feel it in our bodies first. Where does this feeling of worry show up physically? Knots in the stomach or tightness in the chest?

It’s noticing what thoughts we’re having, without judgment. Ask yourself, what story I’m I telling myself about this?

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Humans have an inbuilt drive to belong and be accepted. This makes us care about what others think of us.

  • In the pre-historic times, human beings couldn't survive if they were not part of a group. This makes belongingness part of our genes, which shaped our natural selection.
  • In the modern age, as we get more social and mobile, it is no longer necessary to be part of a group, as it is not crucial to be accepted by everyone. It helps to know how to care less about what other people think or do.

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1. Notice When You’re Stuck in Your Head

Start paying attention to the way you think so you can become aware of the problem.

When you’re replaying events in your mind over and over, or worrying about things you can’t control, acknowledge that this isn’t productive. Thinking is only helpful when it leads to positive action.

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