MYTH 4: If I Try Harder With The Person I’m Interested In, They
There are times when we need to show the person how deeply we feel for them and there are times when we need to stop. When we struggle to know which is which, it can help to ask ourselves:
- Am I trying to prove how much I care about this person because they’re doubting it?
- Or am I struggling with my own feelings of rejection?
- Is this about our connection or is this about me?
- Can I privately deal with this unbearable rejection or do I feel entitled to another shot? If so, why?
We have a tendency to respond to disconnection by gripping tighter, although it doesn't give us the expected result.
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