Find the right balance

We dream of being idle but simultaneously feel that we want to do something.

Strategic idleness is an art and difficult to manage. We fear boredom that might come with idleness. Boredom points to the meaninglessness of life and provokes uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that we would ...

1. We might want to assess the actual harm and find out the depth of the wound.
2. Don’t say ‘Why are you so mad?’, but frame it as ‘What did i do?’
3. Don’t gaslight the problem, but say something supportive, realistic and helpful, like you understand and fee...

The most common emotion and the source of all our biases is the desire for pleasure and the avoidance of pain. We imagine we are looking for the truth, or being realistic, when in fact we are holding on to ideas that bring a release from tension and soothe our egos, make us feel superior. ...