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Reiterate what you understand
Repeating an argument back to the speaker can develop trust by proving that you're listening.
Try paraphrasing what you understand, using: " so you're suggesting ... because... ?"
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Ask for their point of view
To gain trust and build rapport, you need to hear out what the other person thinks without interrupting or disagreeing.
Try asking open-ended questions, like: "Why do you think that?"
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Mirror your opponent
If you mimic your opponent (in a subtle way), they are more likely to believe you.
For example, if they are sitting cross-legged, wait a few seconds and cross your legs too. And make sure that what you are doing is not too obvious.
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Make direct eye contact
...while you listen. This makes the speaker's arguments less persuasive, which makes your opinion look strong.
Fix the speaker in your sight as soon as they start speaking.
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How to get agreement
- Instead of attacking someone's ideas, try taking your opponent's basic beliefs and developing them into an absurd conclusion.
- Flag your opponent's' dangerous beliefs. It may have a positive effect on neutralizing your opponent.
- Identify the shared ground bet...
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How to present your point of view
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Pitfalls to avoid
- Watch your posture. The most effective one is with your feet together and palms down or letting them move with the words.
- Don't get nasty. Validate your opponent's self-worth by being nice to them so they will be more receptive.
- Avoid using too many facts.
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Repeat Back What You Heard
Implement a process called active listening. Repeat back to the speaker what you heard.
If the speaker agrees that what you heard is what he or she intended to say, you can move on. If not, the speaker needs to reword their statement until the listener really does under...
Summarize What You Understand
Other people may have blind spots and one way to make them understand what you understand is to say to them, ‘So, As I understand, what you are saying is essentially this’ and summarize their position to them.
If your argument hasn’t yet gone in the irrational territory, this will wo...
What is listening?
Listening does not mean hearing just to respond. It is hearing to understand.
Listening is not to judge/analyse what the other person is saying, it means to fully concentrate on what is being said. It is about using empathy & compassion & understanding the complete message, including the un...
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