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Take a step back

Usually, the fear we feel isn’t so much about the worst case scenario we’re thinking of—it’s about how we would feel if that scenario comes to pass.

To boost your courage, try to stay objective and focus on the facts of the matter. Pay attention to what actually happened, rather than the meaning you’re attaching to it.

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If we respond to every fear-inducing situation like we’re in mortal danger, we’re going to end up missing out on valuable opportunities to live fully, enjoy growth and new experiences. Ask yourself: “Am I avoiding pain, or seeking growth?

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We tend to be harsher with ourselves than we are with other people.

The next time you’re faced with an opportunity to expand your comfort zone, ask yourself how you would perceive your best friend in the same situation. Would you focus on the potential pitfalls, or would you admire them for taking the risk?

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Boosting your courage isn’t something that happens overnight. 

It’s a day-by-day process and you’re more likely to experience success in this area if you focus on expanding your comfort zone one step at a time.

For example, if you notice that you feel fear around talking to new people, start small by asking someone for directions or striking up a short conversation with people you encounter in your day-to-day life.

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We often focus on what we need to do. The real shift that needs to take place, however, revolves around who we need to become.

What qualities would a courageous future version of yourself have? How would they start each day? What new habits would they develop? What old habits would they change?

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Take action

The longer you wait before taking action, the less courageous you’ll feel

The only thing that will help you feel more courageous is taking action, stepping outside your comfort zone, and sending yourself the message that you are a courageous person.

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Remember to breathe
If we want to boost our courage in a particular situation, one of the most effective ways of doing this is to slow down our breathing. 

When we’re feeling fearful, our breathing unconsciously becomes faster and shallower. Taking a few deep breaths sends the signal to our minds that everything is OK and helps us relax.

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Make fear your friend

Your fears will never completely disappear, and you will never win the battle against them. 

When you can finally accept fears and invite them in, it makes courage more accessible.

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Your lack of courage may cost you

Our brains are wired to:

  • Discount the cost of inaction, 
  • Overestimate the probability of things going wrong and 
  • Underestimate ourselves.

However, researchers have found that bravery is a skill, and like all skills it can be learned, strengthened and mastered with repeated practice.

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Decide if you should face your fear
  • Consider the pros and cons of not facing your fear. 
  • Write those down. 
  • Identify the pros and cons of tackling your fears head-on. 
  • Write down what you might achieve or how your life might be different.

The best way to conquer a fear is to face your fears head-on in a healthy manner that helps you move past the fear rather than in a way that traumatizes you.

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