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Work isn't a family

Work may be a place where you care about each other, but it is also a place that may lay you off or where you need to look out for your own interests, just like your employer will do.

Offices that say they are 'like family' may also likely penalise you if you don't participate in workplace events. They may distrust people who don't buy into their family model and may accuse those who like to keep boundaries between work and family as "not a team player." 

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Working in a company that blurs the boundary between work and family may mean that you may be held back professionally because you don't socialise enough.

  • The easiest way to find out if it will be an obstacle to your ability to get promoted is to ask your boss directly what you would need to do to be a strong candidate for a promotion. Then see what your boss focuses on.
  • If it does seem that you're going to be held back professionally, one option is to fake more enthusiasm. Another is to find a job that does not have this label attached.

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Work-life boundaries

Some organisations talk of their employees as being part of "a family".

However, the "we're like family here" can be hugely problematic. Boundaries can become violated, and you may be expected to work long hours, agree to lower pay, not complain about bad management, and prioritise loyalty to your employer above other interests. 

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The big problem with contingent

They’re very risky for the applicant. Even if you don't resign from your job before the reference check, you will have to tell your boss you are on the verge of leaving. So either way, you’d be in a vulnerable position with your security in your current job at risk before your offer is final.

As a candidate, one option is to push back on the contingency, explain it could jeopardize your current job, and offer up plentiful other references.

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Leaving a Stopgap Job

You don’t need to stay a year for your résumé’s sake. There’s nothing magical about the one-year mark.

If your concern is that you don’t want to look like a job hopper, a single short-term stay isn’t going to be a problem. Job hopping is about a pattern where you repeatedly leave jobs after only a short time; it’s not about one short tenure. Also, when it is a concern, staying for a year won’t counteract it anyway.

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Feeling unsettled at work

When we start a new job, we are often told to 'fake it 'til we make it.' However, we may continue to feel out of our depth. It may be because there are no clear indicators that measure our performance.

  • Rather than speculating if you measure up in your work, ask for feedback.
  • Ask what indicators your boss will look at to assess your performance.
  • You could also ask for more coaching where you are struggling the most.

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