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Instead of Work-Life Balance, Try Focusing on Boundaries

Boundaries Based on Your Priorities

Boundaries Based on Your Priorities

When you learn to set boundaries based on your various priorities and obligations, you’ll feel in control and at liberty to make decisions that work for you and the kind of life you want to lead — not the kind of life you’re supposed to lead.

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Instead of Work-Life Balance, Try Focusing on Boundaries

Instead of Work-Life Balance, Try Focusing on Boundaries

https://lifehacker.com/instead-of-work-life-balance-try-focusing-on-boundarie-1784404146

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Boundaries Instead Of Balance

It’s fine to value stability, but since life isn’t still, putting balance on a pedestal is problematic.

Developing a boundary-setting practice will allow you to reconfigure how your day and week is going to play out based on professional responsibilities and personal needs and not freak out if one day is all work and zero play. 

Boundaries Based on Your Priorities

When you learn to set boundaries based on your various priorities and obligations, you’ll feel in control and at liberty to make decisions that work for you and the kind of life you want to lead — not the kind of life you’re supposed to lead.

Your Boundaries With Others

By sharing some details of your boundary practice with the people in your life, you give them an opportunity to support your goals instead of constantly tempting you with invitations that threaten to step on the lines you’ve drawn.

Defining Your Boundaries by Failing

Sometimes you have to slip up to learn about your boundaries; redefining them is a part of the process. Pushing yourself too hard, or underestimating how long something takes will help you draw better, clearer lines in the future. 

Correctly identifying what you need to comfortably achieve your goals takes some time.

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Everyone has constraints on their time and energy. And every choice has a cost. You cannot have it all. You have to choose. You can be mediocre in everything, or excel in some and ignore the rest

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  • You dread going to work in the morning.
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Find friends outside of work

If your only friends are your friends at work, it'll be more challenging to avoid work on evenings and weekends. If you do have coworkers as close friends, consider setting some boundaries around work talk.

Try to avoid getting drawn into office drama, as it will increase the time you spend talking and thinking about work.

Speak up

Speak up when your workload is too much. Tell your boss if you are stretched too thin or when you regularly work too many hours. Talk about what you can reasonably get done in a week.

Also, don't say yes to everything. If you have a hard time saying no, don't respond immediately. Instead say, "Let me get back to you", or, "Let me think about that."

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