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How to Develop a Healthier Outlook and Learn to Be Perfectly Imperfect

Balance Your Critical Focus

Perfectionists tend to notice mistakes and often notice them above all else. But you can soften this tendency by consciously trying to notice the good in things.

When you spot perceived flaws look for five other qualities that you do like. This will balance out your critical focus and become a positive new habit.

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