FOLLOW Understanding What You Feel Ask yourself why you have feelings of insecurity in the first place. Determining where those feelings originate helps you discover two vital things: That your insecurities have a valid foundation and that you are not silly for feeling insecure; That these issues have a logical cause and can, therefore, be logically cured.
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FOLLOW 7 Strategies to Deal With Difficult Family Members
Difficult people are everywhere, like it or not. It's pretty certain that at some point in your life, you'll come across a challenging person and will have to find a way to deal with them. It would be easy to think, "Why bother?" if being around them causes you grief.
Don’t try to fix the difficult person Accept them exactly as they are.
Accept that they are unable to change, at least at this point in time. Unless you see real change — proof that this person is making an effort&nb...
Be present and direct
Try to avoid getting into a fight-or-flight response, which
inevitably leads to becoming defensive. Be direct and assertive when you express yourself. Stay focused on how you respond. Know when the discussion or argument has accelerated to the point of no return. If it gets to this point, stop the interaction, and leave the conversation. Encourage difficult people to express themselves Let them fully state their point of view about the issue/conflict/problem without interruption. What do they feel people misunderstand about them? What do they want or expect from others?
The idea is to remain as neutral as possible. Just listening may be enough to allow someone to feel like they have the opportunity to say what’s on their mind.
FOLLOW How to Handle Other People's Anger Like a Pro
Dealing with other people's anger can be challenging, confusing, and sometimes terrifying-especially if it's someone we're close to like a spouse, parent, or co-worker. In this article, I'm going to teach you how to think about and handle other people's anger like a professional psychologist would.
Anger and Aggression Anger: An emotion felt when we believe we have been wronged. Aggression: is an act of expression of the anger, by our words our actions. Aggressio... Validation and Boundaries We can try and validate the anger felt by an individual by making them know that their anger is maybe justified while putting firm but respectful boundaries on their aggression. We then need to be clear about what type of aggression we are willing to tolerate, setting boundaries on the unacceptable. We may have to put our foot down and be ready to leave the conversation or escalate the issue, without falling into the trap of guilt and emotion. If possible, we need to restart the conversation when things have cooled down, and diffuse the issue in a calm way. Avoiding Speculative Self-Talk
Unchecked self-talk can easily turn into self-delusion. The stories we create almost always make you look like the good guy and cannot be termed as objective.
The way to get out of this speculative self-delusion is to avoid any speculation about other people's anger, at least initially. Make sure to note down the facts of the situation. This can make the story less according to your gut instinct, and more towards the objective reality. FOLLOW A Guide To Dealing With Difficult People
We've all been there. Be it work, school or Thanksgiving dinner, we've all found ourselves in situations where we have been forced to interact with people we find to be "difficult".
Identifying Difficult People The Perfectionist. If you are looking for quick results, perfectionists can be a source of frustration. Control freaks. When you want to do th... Identifying the Issue Turn the situation inward and analyze your triggers and reactions to these situations. How do you react to a difficult person in your life? How does your difficult person react to your reactions? If the other person is the problem, are you growing unhealthy actions and reactions in response to him or her? Are you the difficult person driving others to reactive behavior? How do others react to your actions and responses? Mitigating These Situations Separate the facts from your assumptions.
Separate yourself and your reactions from the negative emotions you may be feeling in the moment.
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