Living Without Your Safety Blanket

Make yourself step outside of your comfort zone by removing your usual precautions. 

If you typically interact through e-mail or shop online, try picking up the phone instead. Once you are comfortable doing this, take care of business in person. 

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Understanding What You Feel
Ask yourself why you have feelings of insecurity in the first place. Determining where those feelings originate helps you discover two vital things: 
  1. That your insecurities have a valid foundation and that you are not silly for feeling insecure; 
  2. That these issues have a logical cause and can, therefore, be logically cured.

Try to gradually overcome your tendency to feel insecure by introducing yourself to those situations slowly - as a sort of desensitization process.

If you have trouble in social environments, for example, ask trusted friends or family members to go with you and act as a buffer. 

Try to think of yourself in another light. Maybe you have trouble handling stress in the workplace, but are you a good mother, wife, or friend? 

Visualize the things that you like or admire and stop looking at yourself so critically. You are likely to be the only person who judges you so harshly.

Doing What You Know Best
Find something you are good at doing, and do it. Finding a hobby in which you excel will help you because it relieves stress and builds confidence. You will then have an escape on those bad days when it feels like nothing is going your way.
For every goal you reach, have a planned reward. Focusing on the anticipated award helps to take the focus off of the problem ahead.
Buy a high-quality journal and write a list of the goals you want to accomplish in it. Include a list of the things that you find positive about yourself. Write down any compliments you receive and all professional or personal successes.
Every few weeks, go back and read what you have written in your journal thus far. You will now be able to clearly see the progress you are making.

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Let them fully state their point of view about the issue/conflict/problem without interruption. What do they feel people misunderstand about them? What do they want or expect from others? 

The idea is to remain as neutral as possible. Just listening may be enough to allow someone to feel like they have the opportunity to say what’s on their mind. 

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Separate the facts from your assumptions. 

Separate yourself and your reactions from the negative emotions you may be feeling in the moment. 

  • We can try and validate the anger felt by an individual by making them know that their anger is maybe justified while putting firm but respectful boundaries on their aggression.
  • We then need to be clear about what type of aggression we are willing to tolerate, setting boundaries on the unacceptable.
  • We may have to put our foot down and be ready to leave the conversation or escalate the issue, without falling into the trap of guilt and emotion.
  • If possible, we need to restart the conversation when things have cooled down, and diffuse the issue in a calm way.

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