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How People Pleasing Can Cost You Your Authenticity, And Yourself
Oftentimes, we get so wrapped up in how our behaviors affect others, we forget how our behaviors affect ourselves. It is in our nature as humans to want to be liked, particularly in our youth. Yet, over time, we start to lose our individuality without even noticing, with some even becoming so consumed by the personality (or personalities) that they have developed to please others, that they lose all semblance of self.
While this loss is not noticed by our conscious minds, it is always apparent to our subconscious, and this loss of identity is rarely understood for what it truly is.
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The Truth
More often than not, our brain tells us that this is our fault, that we are annoying, out-of-place, maybe even unlovable. And we believe it.
The truth is much simpler... however, it is not easy to hear, and can be even harder to implement.
The reason you feel annoying, unloved, and o...
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The What
Maybe your friend was rude to a waiter, maybe your spouse or partner was belittling and dismissive. Maybe you see a stranger being mistreated, and you no longer have a desire to assist like you used to. Perhaps a loved one says something offensive "as a joke" and you let it go. Again.
This...
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The When
Those feelings of "not good enough" are exactly what you need to move differently. Make new friends, move somewhere new, give yourself room to breathe. Protect yourself, honor yourself, listen to yourself.
You deserve to feel loved, understood, and wanted.
And guess what, it starts w...
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The How
If something makes you uncomfortable, speak up or walk away.
If someone is being rude or dismissive, speak up or walk away.
Over time, you will feel less annoying, less out-of-place.
Not because those same people treat you differently, but because you
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The Why
When you are authentic with yourself, you can have real growth with the world around you.
No more hiding feelings, no more withdrawing out of worry or fear, no more allowance of what you do not deserve.
As the saying goes, your vibe attracts your tribe.
If you want to ...
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