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The Truth
More often than not, our brain tells us that this is our fault, that we are annoying, out-of-place, maybe even unlovable. And we believe it.
The truth is much simpler... however, it is not easy to hear, and can be even harder to implement.
The reason you feel annoying, unloved, and out-of-place is you, but not for the reasons you think.
Over time you have lost any authentic reaction to situations in life. You may still be loving, and kind, but are you being honest?
Would the you of your youth tolerate what the you of now does? Is this the best version of yourself?
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How People Pleasing Can Cost You Your Authenticity, And Yourself
Oftentimes, we get so wrapped up in how our behaviors affect others, we forget how our behaviors affect ourselves. It is in our nature as humans to want to be liked, particularly in our youth. Yet, over time, we start to lose our individuality without even noticing, with some even becomi...
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The What
Maybe your friend was rude to a waiter, maybe your spouse or partner was belittling and dismissive. Maybe you see a stranger being mistreated, and you no longer have a desire to assist like you used to. Perhaps a loved one says something offensive "as a joke" and you let it go. Again.
This...
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The When
Those feelings of "not good enough" are exactly what you need to move differently. Make new friends, move somewhere new, give yourself room to breathe. Protect yourself, honor yourself, listen to yourself.
You deserve to feel loved, understood, and wanted.
And guess what, it starts w...
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The How
If something makes you uncomfortable, speak up or walk away.
If someone is being rude or dismissive, speak up or walk away.
Over time, you will feel less annoying, less out-of-place.
Not because those same people treat you differently, but because you
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The Why
When you are authentic with yourself, you can have real growth with the world around you.
No more hiding feelings, no more withdrawing out of worry or fear, no more allowance of what you do not deserve.
As the saying goes, your vibe attracts your tribe.
If you want to ...
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Take responsibility
Sometimes our instinctive reaction to a mistake is to shift blame elsewhere: "It's not my fault."
Taking responsibility for a failure may not be fun. But the act of doing so points out what we can do differently next time. Our actions have a huge influence on the quality of our liv...
Reasons We Play The Blame Game
- Blame is a good defense mechanism and protects your self-esteem by avoiding awareness of your own failings.
- Blame is a tool of attack that can hurt others and a destructive conflict resolution method.
- We’re bad at analyzing people's behavior, or even our own. The attributions...
Throat or Truth Chakra
It deals with truth and is blocked by lies, the ones we tell ourselves.
Ask yourself, What are the lies you’ve been telling yourself?
Is it I can’t do this work, this is not my ability, this is not in my hand, it is out of my mind, I can’t tolerate it, I can’t study, I can’t concentra...
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