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4. You dwell on past mistakes

4. You dwell on past mistakes

Just like it’s hard to feel confident if you’re always predicting that disaster is about to strike, it’s similarly hard to feel confident if you’re constantly reminding yourself of your mistakes and failings.

It’s hard to feel confident about the future when you won’t let go of the past.

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2. You second-guess yourself constantly

Each time you second-guess yourself, it’s a tiny message to your brain that you don’t believe in yourself. So if you only do it occasionally, no big deal. But if you’re in the habit of constantly second-guessing yourself, think about what you’re teaching your brain?

If you want to feel more confident, you need to make your peace with uncertainty and accept the responsibility of making decisions and living with the consequences

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3. You catastrophize about future danger

If you’re in the habit of always catastrophizing, not only will it chip away at your confidence in your ability to handle difficulties in the future — it’s also going to make you incredibly anxious and stressed out all the time.

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1. You’re addicted to reassurance

Reassurance-seeking is like outsourcing emotional labor onto other people. And not only does it kill your confidence, it also tends to sabotage your relationships and lead to people becoming resentful of you.

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5. You’re afraid of feeling afraid

The fear that keeps your confidence low doesn’t come from the thing itself, but from the feelings about it.

If you want to feel more confident, start to cultivate a healthier relationship with your fear. Start acknowledging it and validating it instead of trying to avoid it.

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The poi nt isn’t to read Crime and Punishment on day one. The point is to get you reading. So start with what’s easy and what you’re into. Seriously, guilty pleasures abound (I like I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell and Shit My Dad Says).

Once you’ve tested the waters (maybe 2 — 3 months), start to grapple with tougher books, maybe even the canonical texts. To use what you read, start implementing this strategy . Don’t worry about this until you’re hooked though.

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