Oozing happiness all the time may not be a feasible option. This fast pace world is a bit overwhelming on our daily shedules, but we are still happy doing our things even if we can't bear a smile over our face. We feel fulfilled after completing our chores. This mode could be satisfying, toiling through the day, not thinking about happiness or sadness. That is what I mean by 'Art of not giving a f*ck'.

Toiling

'When the cup is full nothing can be poured in it everything will be spilled over. So, to climb the ladder of knowledge you need to keep your cup empty.'Rejecting the idea that you know anything will open you up for factual knowledge, scientific methodology and conceptual knowledge. This helps arriving at better decisions.If you allow yourself a little doubt, you can disprove any limiting beliefs about yourself and others

Certainty Hampers Growth

I pursued happiness like an addict pursues their next hit. I tried everything to try and be happy, but no matter what I tried, it didn’t make happy.In fact, the opposite happened, it made me miserable.I was pursuing happiness for the sake of it, there was no meaning behind my pursuit. I just wanted to be happy, but you can’t be happy simply by chasing it.I think the best way to describe happiness is from this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt."Happiness is not a goal... It's a by-product of a weak or lived life."

The Pursuit of Happiness makes you unhappy

"Life is essentially an endless loop problems. Solution to one problem is merely creation of another."

Leaving a dent in the universe. Why?Why we all strive to leave a legacy. Most of us are ruining our lives trying to chase this dream. We need to share our universe with our loved ones. Help others. Make commune. Gather like minded people around you. Let alone the legacy take care of itself.The more we are driven to build a great body of work, the more we start chasing fame, working to much and focusing on future. What if, we start living in present enjoy our days while we a fully present here.

Don't Obsess About Leaving A Legacy

1. Values can't control our bad values to follow.2. Don't believe that you know anything with certainty, for it keeps you from improving.3. Trying to leave a legacy might run your life. Trying to not give a f*ck about most of the things is that you'll be able to give one about what really matters most to you in life.

Important Lessons

Focus on things that you can control. See when people around you stay taking control of your life, you stop taking taking control of your little steps. Start taking small steps that you can control. They are intangible assets. With time they will compound which will make you shine among others. Choose values that you can control.<ul><li>As a matter of fact think hard of values like punctuality and popularity. Can you control them??</li><li>Can you control values like honesty and kindness??</li></ul>Provide comments...

Hold Values You Control

#1 New York Times Bestseller Over 1 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

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#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

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