Identify The Root Of Problems
Once you know where it began, you can realize that you perhaps adopted the wrong idea about yourself based on what you thought was true in the moment.
If you struggle with low self-esteem, for example, imagine the first time you felt ashamed of yourself. Think about what made you feel that way and why. This is the only way you can truly rectify it.
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Know what you'd do in the event of a breakup, a job loss, the freaking apocalypse.
Have a savings account, an escape already planned.
You won't start a war to saying: "I don't appreciate you speaking about me in this way," but you will reinforce a kind of self-empowerment that most people never develop in the first place.
... in the practical ways:
At least with yourself.
Just because you can't always speak your entire truth does not mean that you don't have to consciously acknowledge what it is.
If you are in pain in any way or something makes you uncomfortable, that means something is not right. Figure out why.
That "something" could be a choice to change your life but most often, it's a shift in how you see yourself and what you focus on most.
Be conscious not to point blame at your partner by phrasing sentences that start with words such as “You make me... “ or “You didn’t…”
Instead, begin by saying, “I feel hurt when…” or “I’m upset when…” Your partner will be less likely to be defensive if you don’t sound as though you’re in attack mode.
A self-centered worldview will have you chasing boogeymen where they don’t exist.
Stop psycho-analyzing every word choice your partner makes and be more present in the moment so you can notice the message behind their tone, physical presence, and posture. Obsessing with hidden meanings is a sure-fire way to miss the point.
Self-knowledge is the ultimate knowledge, and to know yourself is to know the meaning of life. There are millions of things we could know about ourselves, ranging from anecdotal to emotional or psychological matters. There are certain key bits of self-knowledge that we think might benefit us, like our work talents, or a partner who would be compatible with us.
Self-knowledge provides us with a route to a happy and fulfilling life. A lack of self-knowledge makes our lives accidental.
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