Be true to yourself. Be your own best friend. People who tell you you’re selfish are not your people. If the voice in your head says these unkind things, get a new voice.

Honor your mental health and seek out a good therapist with the same vigor you’d search for a romantic partner.

Love yourself, no matter how weird and silly it might feel. Look deeply into your eyes into a mirror and say out loud “I trust you”. That voice in your head might say you’re a dork. Ignore it.

Another unhelpful message we get from society is that we need a “love of our life”. Don’t overlook friendships as you look for that “great love”.

Be intentional about cultivating friendships that lift you up. Surround yourself with people who see your light and how amazing you are. ...