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9 Extraordinary Ways To Silence Your Inner Critic

Pick Up The Phone

Pick Up The Phone

Shame works better if we keep it secret. So find the courage to do the counterintuitive thing and tell someone what happened -- invariably those conversations end with laughter.

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