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The Biggest Wastes of Time We Regret When We Get Older
Not Asking for Help
There are a handful of reasons we don’t ask for help, but it’s usually because we’re too proud or scared, and that’s a huge waste of time, because it keeps you from moving forward.
If you feel stuck in your career or need to learn new skills and have no idea how to get started, talking to other people in your field will go a long way.
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Not Asking for Help
There are a handful of reasons we don’t ask for help, but it’s usually because we’re too proud or scared, and that’s a huge waste of time, because it keeps you from moving forward.
If you feel stuck in your career or need to learn new skills and have no idea how to get started, talking to other people in your field will go a long way.
Trying to Make Bad Relationships Work
Reasons people usually use:
- Thinking you have more in common with the person you're dating than you actually do;
- Being in a relationship just to avoid loneliness;
- Staying in a relationship only out of fear of losing the person.
Bad relationships cloud your judgment, prolong your unhappiness, and distract you from things that matter to you most.
Dwelling on Your Mistakes
Learning from your mistakes is one thing. Dwelling on them wastes your time, diminishes your confidence, and keeps you from getting on with your life.
Dwelling makes you feel like a failure. When you feel like a failure, it’s easy to tell yourself there’s no point in trying, because you already suck.
Worrying Too Much About Other People
It’s easy to waste time worrying about other people, too. Your friends and loved ones mean a lot to you, and you want to spend time nurturing them.
But we also spend a lot of time fretting over problems that don’t matter in the long run. Those habits always lead to a dead end, because they don't involve action.
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What Perspective Taking Is
It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.
By taking yourself out of the equation, the motivations of your opponent becomes clearer. And by understanding the othe...
Develop perspective taking
- Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective.
- Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing.
- Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has.
- Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person.
- Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations, imagine how they are seeing the current situation.
- Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is.
Using perspective taking
When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation.
By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties.
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Get Out of Your Inbox and Get to Work
Your email is distractions and other people’s priorities. Your to-d...
7 Tips to Help You Get Out of Your Inbox:
- Instead of checking your email endlessly, limit the number of times you check your inbox.
- Get things out of your email and onto your to-do list: If an email requires action beyond a response, then add that task to your to-do list where it belongs.
- Don’t read email, act on it: File, respond, or delete. Otherwise, you are just compounding the mess in your inbox for later.
- Close your email program.
- Keep your emails short and to the point. As well, ensure your “ask” is in the first line.
- Turn off the notifications: They interrupt your day and encourage you to stop your work to check your inbox.
- Don’t check email on your mobile device: If you are using your phone for communication, utilize more immediate forms of communication such as Slack, iMessage, and more.
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Clean up your workspaces
End the workday by taking a minute to tidy your desk, save everything you’re working on, and close of all your tabs and windows. Make sure your work app notifications are automatically snoozed outs...
Review your "to-done’s"
Boost your mood and motivation by taking the time to review your completed tasks at the end of each day.
One of the easiest and most effective ways to stay motivated and build momentum at work is to celebrate your progress.
The procrastination “doom loop”
Confront the things you’ve been putting off. If you keep putting things off, you'll feel guilty and that makes you want to avoid them even more. You will get stuck in the “doom loop” of anxiety and avoidance.
Break this loop by identifying the tasks that you’ve been avoiding, break them down into smaller tasks and schedule the next step for the following day.
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