“Calm down!”
The words "Calm down!" makes people feel criticised and suggests their reasons are invalid for being upset.
Instead of saying, "Calm down," try saying, "It's going to be alright. Talk to me. What's the matter?" It shows that you want to understand the person's circumstances better and are open to talking things through.
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