The power of "I want to help"

When we acknowledge and validate how someone feels, we send them the message that we understand them on a deeper level.

When we validate another person's emotion by naming it and acknowledging that we understand it, we give the other person the right to feel the way they d...

We cannot control another person's behavior nor change it.

• Once you understand that, let go of judgments and accept the person. Give them space to share their thoughts and feelings. It doesn't mean you condone their behavior, but you can respect their feelings.
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... and be specific about what you want.

Don't use phrases like “Can you do me a favor? ", because they are manipulative - they force someone to commit before you tell them what it is you need. A simple “Can you help me with [specific thing]?” will do.