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Joanne (Jo)
@jojo_the2nd
Fight like siblings
Unless something truly terrible happens, there’s no room for grudges.
You will annoy each other, of course, but it’s always better to get over it quickly.
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Anthony V.
@anthony_ov22
Research shows friend groups shrink after age 25. Here's how to keep making new friends even as you get older.
Be a regular
The best way to have friends is to interact with the same person regularly.
Look for activities where the same core people show up. Keep showing up yourself.
Talk about yourself
Share some details of your life more freely so that your conversation partner doesn't have to interrogate you. If you feel uncomfortable talking too much, give yourself permission to stretch and grow.
Be the conversation starter
Most people are secretly scared of getting rejected. Assume that people like you and act in kind.
Don't wait for them to start a conversation. Say "hello." They might be relieved you took the initiative.
Paxton E.
@paxtonwee50
15 Easy Ways to Find and Make Friends as an Adult
Focus on Being Open
Don't worry about being rejected, or that you might not be fun enough.
Be open and inviting.
Make a List
Make a list of people that you would like to get to know better.
Consider extending an invitation and see what happens.
Put It On the Calendar
Decide when you are going to ask someone to do something together.
Schedule these initial contacts to ensure that you won't keep putting it off.
Felix
@felixg26
Losing Friends With Grace
Ending friendships
Sometimes a friendship can become so painful or unhealthy that we need to end it.
But we often don't have clear guidance or formulas to make these decisions. Our negative emotions drive...
Attachment bonds
We commonly form attachment bonds with a friend. Although we don't talk about it, we do have unspoken psychological expectations when our friends become attachment figures.
The indicator of a secure attachment figure is that s/he is consistent, available, warm, and responsive. But an insecure attachment style (preoccupied, dismissing, or fearful) might struggle with friendship expectations or the ability to provide a secure base to others.
A secure attachment style
You are likely able to accept the good with the bad in your friends. You may get close to your friends but will also give them space. If you feel hurt by a friend, it won't consume you.
You will have seen enough relationships go through the ups and downs so that you know not all relationships last. You know you can tolerate the loss and are free to continue getting close to people.
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