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Practicing The Subtle Art Of Detachment
Attachment and control
With attachment comes a very strong urge to control the circumstances.
You put yourself at risk by investing so much of yourself into something, unwilling to believe that there is a tiny chance that it might not quite work out the way you plan.
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Passion and attachment
Feeling too much passion and attachment towards something can skew our perception of it.
And that's risky because it can make us unwilling to see the flaws in our plan.
Simone Weil
Detachment from material goals
When you detach yourself from the compulsion of owning things just for the sake of owning them you begin to experience real freedom and joy from things that really matter.
By clearing the clutter from our lives, we can all make room for things that truly add value: health, relationships, passion, growth, and contribution.
Detachment in relationships
Most of us misunderstand love to be all about holding on to the other person, trying to fix them and taking care of them in all ways possible.
We need detachment to not take personally other people's reactions, to not seek outside validation and to draw boundaries so that others don’t control us.
Detachment from your experiences
Life is meant to be lived and to not to be over-analyzed.
So learn to see the lessons from an experience and move further in life with new wisdom and. Don't carry the bitterness, guilt and regret over the past experiences - they will spoil your present days.
Detachment from your work
It means that you do not rely on work alone to give you a feeling of completeness and to provide meaning to your life.
Detachment from your own thoughts
Don't act upon your thoughts and feelings. They are not the ultimate truth or reality.
Detachment from thoughts allows you to see your thoughts from an outside perspective, letting them come and go without allowing yourself to feel too much about them.
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As losing resources is more likely to cause burnout than gaining resources is to mitigate it, dealing with the negative aspects is more beneficial than using positive “band-aid” fixes. You want to drive down uncertainty and inefficiency to ensure that you aren’t doing unnecessary tasks and minimize your emotional exhaustion. To do that:
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Worrying about the future
Worrying is the mental habit of trying to solve a problem that either can’t be solved or isn’t really a problem.
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Isolating yourself
When we hide our pain and isolate ourselves, we throw away the most powerful antidepressant: loving support from people who care about us.
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Keeping quiet
Most of us hesitate to push back and stand up for ourselves because we’re afraid of being perceived as aggressive or rude. And so we default to being passive.
But there’s a middle road between being passive and aggressive: You can be assertive. It means standing up for your own wants, needs, and values, in an honest and respectful way.
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Disadvantages of a Fixed Mindset
- It provokes dissatisfaction and disappointment.
- It decreases self-knowledge and self-awareness.
- It cuts off opportunities. A fixed mindset person is usually afraid to take risks.
- It encourages mediocrity.
- It attracts mediocre relationships that will hardly bring long-term satisfaction.
- It leads to stagnation.
What a Growth Mindset is
The growth-oriented person perceives failures as useful feedback. He doesn’t stop to wonder if he’s appreciated by others or if he should do more to impress. The growth-oriented person seeks excellence through practice.
This involves consistency and persistence. When failing, he doesn’t get discouraged but rather motivated to succeed the next time.
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