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3 Choices You'll Regret Making a Decade From Now (They'll Affect Your Success and Happiness)

Fear born out of practicality

We sometimes give in to fear disguised as practicality.

Replace "I'd love to, but..." with "I'm going to, and...". The worst that can happen is most likely manageable and nowhere close to living with never having tried.

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3 Choices You'll Regret Making a Decade From Now (They'll Affect Your Success and Happiness)

3 Choices You'll Regret Making a Decade From Now (They'll Affect Your Success and Happiness)

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Fear born out of practicality

We sometimes give in to fear disguised as practicality.

Replace "I'd love to, but..." with "I'm going to, and...". The worst that can happen is most likely manageable and nowhere close to living with never having tried.

The "good enough" narrative

Don't settle for good enough, for the " I hate my job but it makes great money, I provide for my family and I can save for retirement".

Don't ignore the call for greatness, whatever greatness means to you.

Quieting your curiosity

Don't de-prioritize your curiosity. Never be satisfied that you know enough. 

Grow to think of curiosity as a value, a virtue.

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The Ritual Of Gratitude
The Ritual Of Gratitude

Setting aside time daily for practising gratitude, for the littlest of things life has bestowed us with, can have a profound effect on our minds and our lives. Things to be grateful for:

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The Painful Days

During the most painful days, or when one is upset, is procrastinating, sick or injured, or having relationship issues, it is easy to forget the good parts, and therefore extremely important to 'balance the scales' by remembering what you are grateful for.

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  2. Allowing yourself to be pe...
"Good" Decisions

  • Logical decisions tend to trump emotional ones, since emotions can sometimes make us biased or see things in an inaccurate light.
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Step away from the problem

Distancing yourself from a problem can help you face it in a more objective way. 

Instead of remaining in your own frame of mind, consider yourself as an outside observer, such as a friend giving advice or a fly on the wall. Removing yourself in this way helps you filter out some of your cognitive biases and lean you toward a more rational decision.

Give yourself some time

Accuracy and reliability in decision making tends to increase if you first give yourself some time to decompress and collect yourself.

This may also help you remove yourself from the problem, knocking out two of these strategies at a time.

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"If you have a heartbeat, there's still time for your dreams."

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Apply Conviction To What You Are Doing

Believe in yourself and apply maximum conviction and dedication to what you are doing. Don't "try", do it. This puts you ahead of the competition.

This applies to your physical body as well. If you are constantly slouched with a frown on your face and arms crossed, that may not serve you well. That kind of posture can come across as defensive, negative or closed minded. A strong, positive, and open posture will make things that much more attainable.

Reframe Your Problems

Problems can be interpreted as opportunities to use different resources and find alternatives.

A problem means life is eliminating options and helping you choose how you are going to be successful. In the case of not having money, it may mean you have to learn to do it yourself. 

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Fear of success

It's a very real but often misunderstood struggle. The key thing to realize is that, in most cases, the fear is about the consequences of success, not the success itself. 

This fear like...

What fear of success looks like
  • Fear of success usually doesn’t mean a literal fear of success. People fear the results and consequences of making lots of money, for example, not the money itself.
  • Fear of success is often learned at a young age.
  • Fear of success is maintained (and made worse) by avoidance.
  • Fear of success is painful. It brings a lot of anxiety.
  • Most people who are afraid of success are embarrassed by their fear.
Work through your fear of success
  • Validate your fear of success by understanding its origins.
  • Track your avoidance strategies related to fear of success.
  • Face your fears of success (the smart way).
  • Get professional help from a cognitive behavioral therapist.
Bad behaviors cascade

That reticence to ever ask someone out on a date probably plays out in your failure to move to a new city, to take that new job or the timidity around your co-workers.

Standing out of the crowd

People don’t like it when someone changes or does something that makes them feel awkward or insecure. They will think he’s crazy, selfish, arrogant. If you want to do something incredible, you have to become comfortable with being different from the rest.

Nothing worth having comes easy

As cliche as that sounds. Most of us give up on something we’re passionate about too soon. But anyone who’s been successful has a tale of struggle and perseverance to share.

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“You can’t manage what you can’t measure.”
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Discover Your Values

Being able to achieve a success metric is hard, but knowing which metric to achieve is even more important. Discover what you value and choose your own metrics for success, otherwise, your environment will dictate it for you, which could be unfulfilling for you.

Work towards your own idea of success and don’t let “FOMO” make you feel like a failure because you’re not meeting someone else’s metrics for success.

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