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Matthew I.
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Dismissive-Avoidant
- This could be you if you put your independence above all.
- You tend to think less of others.
- You carefully guard your emotions and try at all costs to keep away from rejection.
- You're more likely to connect with people who express the anxious-preoccupied type because they’re more likely to accept the power imbalance.
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According to attachment theory, pioneered by British psychiatrist John Bowlby and American psychologist Mary Ainsworth, the quality of the bonding you experienced during this first relationship often determines how well you relate to other people and respond to intimacy throughout life.
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The infant brain is so profoundly influenced by the attachment bond. Understanding your attachment style can offer vital clues as to why you may be having problems in your adult relationships. There arefour main attachment styles:
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- They are comfortable being alone and independent.
- They can correctly prioritize their relationships.
- They are able to draw clear boundaries and stick with them.
50% of the population is secure attachment types.
Anxious Attachment Style
- They are often nervous and stressed about their relationships.
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A secure attachment style
You are likely able to accept the good with the bad in your friends. You may get close to your friends but will also give them space. If you feel hurt by a friend, it won't consume you.
You will have seen enough relationships go through the ups and downs so that you know not all relationships last. You know you can tolerate the loss and are free to continue getting close to people.
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