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Aiden Mejia
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The theory of the 3 selves
- The actual self is what a person believes to be now, based on current attributes and abilities.
- The ideal self is comprised of the attributes and abilities a person would like to possess one day— goals, hopes, and aspirations.
- The ought self is who someone believes they should have been according to their obligations and responsibilities.
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