How to Avoid a Life of Regret
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The regrets that bother us the most involve failing to live up to our “ideal selves.”
We’re not as bothered by the mistakes we’ve made or the things we ought to have done as we are bothered by never becoming the person we truly wanted to be.
People regret their inactions more than their actions in the long term.
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