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difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everyth

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Tell Me What You Say Yes to, and I'll Tell You Who You Are

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How To Say No, For The People Pleaser Who Always Says Yes

Constantly saying yes to everything and everyone drains us of time and energy. This episode helps explain the roots of people-pleasing behaviors and how you can say no more often.

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The people pleaser

There's a high price for continually saying yes to the thing you just don't want to do.

When your top priority is to be liked all the time, you suppress and repress who you are. The...

Know when you can safely say "no"

Over one week, observe how you spend your time and energy. Keep note of how many times you say yes, no, or maybe to a request. Notice and record how each request made you feel.
Identify the times you say no and everything still works out fine. This will help you to know how you can respond in the future.
The requests that caused you anxiety: Ask yourself what the baggage behind it is. Does it remind you of old hurts and loss? The habit can also be a survival tactic to repress who you are.

Once you know where you can safely say no, try cutting back on saying yes.

Understand your bandwidth

Try to document your energy level and your calendar. How much did you have to do? Did saying yes to too many things mean your days were too busy?

Next time someone makes a request, assess your time and energy before taking on more tasks.

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Zachary

@zachary56

Tell Me What You Did Today, And I'll Tell You Who You Are

You live your life in 24 hour periods. How you use those 24 hour periods determines who you become and how successful you'll be. If you learn to master your day, you'll learn how to master your weeks, months, years, and life. All you need to do is become very, very good at living each day.

medium.com

“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to..."

Tim Ferriss

Become very good at living each day

Momentum is created or destroyed every day with the first few decisions you make.

If you learn to master your day, you’ll learn how to master your weeks, months, years, and life.

The things your brain needs in order to thrive

Nutrition: Quality of food you put into your body matters.
Oxygen: The amount of oxygen your brain gets determines how well it functions.
Information: If the brain isn’t firing, it’s not wiring, and this ages it.
Love: The brain thrives on physical touch and emotional connection.

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Luis J.

@luioj24

You can't be productive without routines and rituals. Here's why

There are few things that impact your daily productivity, career trajectory, and overall well-being as much as your routines. As Will Durant writes in The Story of Philosophy (a quote often misattributed to Aristotle): "We are what we repeatedly do." Today, we know the true extent of those words.

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'Copying' famous routines

Not everyone consciously crafts their routines to maximize their time. That’s why people are interested in the routines of successful people: we think following the same steps will bring the same r...

Rituals

Rituals are repeated behaviors (like routines). However, they’re deeply personal and are imbued with deeper meaning beyond just a sequence of actions. They mark a change, a switch in task or moment of importance. And it’s those symbolic actions performed at key moments that help us move through the day smoothly.

Routines

A routine is a series of regularly followed actions. There are few things that impact your daily productivity, career trajectory, and overall well-being as much as your routines. What’s important isn’t the exact nature of your routine, but that you have one and stick to it.

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