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Tell Me What You Say Yes to, and I'll Tell You Who You Are

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Tell Me What You Say Yes to, and I'll Tell You Who You Are
"The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything." - Warren Buffett According to Aristotle, "We are what we repeatedly do." More directly, we are what we say yes to.

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Warren Buffett
“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything.”

Warren Buffett

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Every choice is very costly

Saying yes isn’t free. Every choice has embedded an opportunity cost. 

When you say yes to anything, you say no to almost everything else. 

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Self-signaling

Your actions provide a signal to you of the type of person you are. 

Your actions demonstrate what you really believe:  If you wake up early and go running, you’ll think to yourself, I’m the kind of person that wakes up early and goes running. 

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Past, present, and future identities

  • Your present identity is based on what you said yes to yesterday, a product of your previous decisions.
  • Your future identity is what you say yes to today, a product of your current decisions.
  • Your past identity is what you’ll say yes to tomorrow. No matter how dark or conflicted your past, it can be transformed. As you change, the meaning of your past changes, as does the memory of it.

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Jim Collins
“If you have more than three priorities, you don’t have any.”

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The pursuit of less

Most things should swiftly be said no to. The most successful people say no to almost everything.

Most people say yes to minor things. Hence, most people live minor, not major lives.

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Know when you can safely say "no"

  • Over one week, observe how you spend your time and energy. Keep note of how many times you say yes, no, or maybe to a request. Notice and record how each request made you feel.
  • Identify the times you say no and everything still works out fine. This will help you to know how you can respond in the future.
  • The requests that caused you anxiety: Ask yourself what the baggage behind it is. Does it remind you of old hurts and loss? The habit can also be a survival tactic to repress who you are.

Once you know where you can safely say no, try cutting back on saying yes.

Understand your bandwidth

Try to document your energy level and your calendar. How much did you have to do? Did saying yes to too many things mean your days were too busy?

Next time someone makes a request, assess your time and energy before taking on more tasks.

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