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Self-signaling

Your actions provide a signal to you of the type of person you are. 

Your actions demonstrate what you really believe:  If you wake up early and go running, you’ll think to yourself, I’m the kind of person that wakes up early and goes running. 

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The people pleaser

There's a high price for continually saying yes to the thing you just don't want to do.

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Know when you can safely say "no"
  • Over one week, observe how you spend your time and energy. Keep note of how many times you say yes, no, or maybe to a request. Notice and record how each request made you feel.
  • Identify the times you say no and everything still works out fine. This will help you to know how you can respond in the future.
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Once you know where you can safely say no, try cutting back on saying yes.

Understand your bandwidth

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Next time someone makes a request, assess your time and energy before taking on more tasks.

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