Wise People Have Rules For Themselves
We’ve all experienced the pain of living under unfair or unsympathetic rules, especially the ones imposed on us as children by teachers and grownups.
We fear the prospect of losing any of our freedom, and we tend to think of rules as devices that only constrain.
SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:
See life as it is, without all the ideals and fantasies you’ve been preoccupied with.
The vast majority of our struggles are self-created, and we can choose to overcome them in an instant.
Tying your self-worth to everyone else’s opinions gives you a flawed sense of reality because people judge us based on a pool of influences in their own lives that have absolutely nothing to do with us.
We need to learn from the past, but also to be ready to update what we learned based on how our circumstances have changed.
The idea that couples must communicate and resolve all of their problems is a myth. The truth is, trying to resolve a conflict can sometimes create more problems than it fixes.
The last person you should ever have to censor yourself with is the person you love.
It’s important to make something more important in your relationship than merely making each other feel good all of the time. The feel-good stuff happens when you get the other stuff right.
Romantic sacrifice is idealized in our culture.
Sometimes the only thing that can make a relationship successful is ending it at the appropriate time, before it becomes too damaging. And the willingness to do that allows us to establish the necessary boundaries to help ourselves and our partner grow together.
You work thousands of hours to make a certain amount of money. And then, you can drop it all on a new car, luxury vacation, watch, or anything else that you desire.The easiest way to grow your bank account is NOT to spend it all. It’s solid advice. The ancient Stoics knew about this too. True freedom means you desire less.
Why do economies generally collapse? What’s debt? Who prints money? Why do they print money?You don’t have to be an economist. The point is that basic knowledge about how all this stuff works prevents panic. “Oh shit! The market is down! What now!!” Panicking will not help you.