How fiction ruined love
Our art is full of omissions. For example, in so many romantic stories, the whole business of work is rarely viewed as relevant to the enduring of a relationship. Yet, in reality, part of the rationale of any relationship is to enable two people to function as a stable joint economic unit for the education of the next generation.
SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:
For most of recorded history, people got married for logical pragmatic sorts of reasons.
Since around 1750, we have been living in an era in the history of love that we can call Romanticism w...
It's normative points include:
Unrequited love, where the partner isn't able to obtain or 'win' the person that is the object of affection, may be a way to ensure that one doesn't face the reality of a relationship.
Fear of Love may be due to a self-hatred, or a fear that others may know our true feelings, dissolving our ego-state, which may have been delicately carved over the years.
To un-fixate from an object of one's affection, you have to tell yourself that you never really liked the person, and the qualities you liked in them, can be found in others.
By dissecting and investigating the character, you can help isolate the traits you liked, and can eventually find them in other people.
As kids, playing was described as fun while work was pretty much defined as not-fun. In school, it was implied that work was monotonous because it was in preparation for grownup work. Grownups a...
Keep in mind this question: How much are you supposed to enjoy what you do? If you underestimate your answer, you'll tend to stop searching too early.
Liking your work does not mean doing what makes you happiest in this second, but what will make you most satisfied over a more extended period, like a week or a month. Your work should be your favorite thing to do. It should be something you admire.
A test of whether you love what you do is if you would do it even if you weren't paid for it. (Even if you had to work at another job to make a living.)