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Listen (Not Just With Your Ears)

People will like you more if you listen to them. This starts with ignoring your Twitter feed while out to dinner with friends, but goes a lot further than that. 

You can show you’re listening to someone through body language (positioning your body to face someone and m...

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People have delicate egos, and even a slight word of condemnation can wound someone’s pride. Of course correction will be necessary at times, but it should always have a purpose and be handled with care.

If someone makes an error, don’t call that person out in front of a group. Be disc...

One great example of situations in which it’s important to avoid clichés is in interviews. Rather than parroting the “nice to meet you”s at the conclusion of an interview, add some kind of variation to make you memorable, even in a tiny way. Try something like “I’ve really enjoyed talking with yo...

Most psychology books refer to this technique as “active listening.” Active listening revolves around demonstrating your listening skills by repeating segments of what an individual has said to you.

It makes the other individual feel as though you really are paying attention

To really show someone you’ve been paying attention, try bringing up a topic that the person mentioned earlier.

They don’t have to be big, life-changing events. In fact, sometimes it says more that you can recall and show interest in even the small happenings in another pe...

As noted again by the famous self-improvement expert Dale Carnegie,individuals crave authentic appreciation. This is very different from emptyflattery, which most people are adept at detecting. No one likes a brown-nose, and most people don’t particularly love being pandered to. What peo...

Asking other people questions — about their lives, their interests, their passions — is a surefire way to get brownie points in their friendship books. People are egocentric — they love to talk about themselves

If you’re asking questions and getting people t...

It has been shown that very subtle physical touch makes individuals feel more connected to you. A great example is gently touching someone’s forearm (with your left hand) while shaking hands (with your right hand) — it’s a great way to f...

We’re all huge narcissists and we all love the sound of our own name. Learn names and make use of them. Always use an individual’s name in a conversation.

 A classic from Dale Carnegie’s famous book How to Win Friends and Influence People, this tried-and-true ...

As humans, we use social interaction as a tool for feedback, and we make a lot of conscious and subconscious choices based on how others engage with and respond to us.

When someone offers a huge grin brimming with authenticity, happiness rubs off on its receivers. There have been m...

No one enjoys being bossed around. So what do you do when you need something done? The truth is that you can get the same result from asking a question as you can by giving an order.

The outcome may be the same, but the individual’s feeling and attitude can vary greatly de...

People like to see character and authenticity. Try to be confident but respectful. Some cooperation experts suggest stepping toward a person and bending slightly forward when you’re introduced, in a gesture of a bow.

These kinds of gestures can go a long way toward making people t...

People love a good story, and great stories require sophisticated storytellers.

Storytelling is an art form that requires an understanding of language and pacing. Master the fine oral tradition of storytelling and people will flock to you like you’re The Bard.

Asking someone for advice is, somewhat surprisingly, a great strategy for getting people to like you. Asking for advice shows that you value the other individual’s opinion and demonstrates respect. 

Everyone likes to feel needed and important. When you make someone fee...

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The former head of the FBI’s behavioural analysis program, Robin Dreeke has studied human interpersonal relations for about three decades.

He has some expert advice on how to put strangers at ease, and how to use your body language like a pro, among other things.

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Negative Feedback

Negative feedback is a more important component of the feedback cycle than positive feedback. 92% of people say in a study that negative feedback improves workplace performance.

To do it right:

  • Check how it will impact the individual
  • Make it guidance or adv...

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Becoming A Source Of Sincere Support

  • Many of the admired people in our lives generally were not the ones that provided us with all the solutions or solved all our problems.
  • Sincere, silent support, like active listening, and genuine care is never overlooked.
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