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Physical Touch

It has been shown that very subtle physical touch makes individuals feel more connected to you. A great example is gently touching someone’s forearm (with your left hand) while shaking hands (with your right hand) — it’s a great way to finish up a conversation. 

Not everyone will feel comfortable with this strategy, and if it’s not for you, that’s fine.

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