Do the inner work you need to do to be happy on your own. If you don’t take responsibility for your life and feelings or often judge and harm yourself, you will meet someone who is also abandoning themselves in various ways.We meet each other at our common level of self-abandonment or health, so do the work you need to do to feel happy, peaceful and full of love inside.

Learn To Love Yourself

Much can be learned from how you each deal with conflict, and avoiding it keeps you from that knowledge. An inability to resolve conflict is a major reason why in-love feelings fade away.

Don't Shy Away From Conflict

Ask the important questions -- about values, money, children, religion/spirituality, past relationships.If you are afraid to be forthright in your questions, then the fear itself is letting you know that your fear of rejection may be in charge -- which means you have more inner work to do.

Ask In-Depth Questions

For a sexual relationship to be deeply satisfying on the physical as well as on the emotional level, there needs to be deep caring and connection.It’s important to distinguish the euphoria of infatuation from love, the latter only comes over time. Beware of those who want to rush things as it is often a sign of neediness and narcissism.

Take It Slow

Instead of focusing on what you don't like and trying to change your partner with judgment, appreciate what is wonderful about him/her. This doesn't mean avoiding problems, as it is vital to learn from the difficulties but being judgmental is detrimental to love.

Appreciation Rather Than Judgment

We all know that being in love is one of the very best feelings in the world. When we fall in love, we often believe that our in-love feelings are going to last forever. In my counseling practice, I've worked with countless people who believed that, this time, the love would last.

Appreciation Rather Than Judgment

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