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Instead of focusing on what you don't like and trying to change your partner with judgment, appreciate what is wonderful about him/her. This doesn't mean avoiding problems, as it is vital to learn from the difficulties but being judgmental is detrimental to love.
Ask the important questions -- about values, money, children, religion/spirituality, past relationships.
If you are afraid to be forthright in your questions, then the fear itself is letting you know that your fear of rejection may be in charge -- which means you have more inner work to do.
For a sexual relationship to be deeply satisfying on the physical as well as on the emotional level, there needs to be deep caring and connection.
It’s important to distinguish the euphoria of infatuation from love, the latter only comes over time. Beware of those who want to rush things as it is often a sign of neediness and narcissism.
Do the inner work you need to do to be happy on your own. If you don’t take responsibility for your life and feelings or often judge and harm yourself, you will meet someone who is also abandoning themselves in various ways.
We meet each other at our common level of self-abandonment or health, so do the work you need to do to feel happy, peaceful and full of love inside.
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As the initial stage of love fades away, a deeper, richer sense of each other should take its place, and couples can find more ways to make things interesting and fun.
Staying curious about each other and finding things, memories, places, and activities that are yet to be shared or experienced together is a great way to rekindle the relationship.
Revisiting your past and finding ways to connect better by looking at the other with 'new' eyes makes us see many things that were overlooked earlier.
Be proactive about warding off threats to your relationship. Avoid lots of time apart, or unwise behavior such as hanging out with people you used to be on/off with.
You can’t guarantee fidelity, but you can do your best to make the relationship the container that you each value so highly, that going elsewhere isn’t desirable.