Stay-in-love couples are authentic, open, and self-reliant, but they also urgently need one another at times. They trust each other won’t take advantage of their availability but know that when urgency calls, their partner will rapidly respond. Their mutual goals are to resolve and to reconnect, leaving distress behind as soon as possible.

Responding To Urgency

Stay-in-love partners know that the need to feel in control at times is natural and that it offers an opportunity for learning and helping each other. Partners have confidence in their own autonomy to not react defensively or take it personally.

Dealing Constructively With Control

During a conflict, many blame their partner for what's wrong but find hard to look at their role in it amidst strong emotions. Stay-in-love couples know that their partner’s views must be respected and honored, however different they are. They strive to understand and find a truth that allows for both.

Refusing To Assign Blame

As relationships mature, many begin to feel less willing to give that kind of unconditional nurturing, and might not be as available. Stay-in-love couples understand the importance of not letting those special “sweet spots” die. They know that their partner sometimes needs to feel that guaranteed comfort and safety, and are more than willing to act as the good parent when asked.

Parenting Each Other

Good partners honor the other’s feelings and thoughts, especially when trying to work through difficult emotional issues. Stay-in-love couples don’t ignore a partner who wants to connect for any reason. Even when distracted or preoccupied, they try to understand what their partner needs, and decide together how they should handle it.

Requests For Connection

Honest and authentic couples accept that there will be disagreement and know that, worked through successfully, it can add interest and intrigue to a relationship. They also know that unresolved repeated conflicts can threaten and ultimately damage relationships.They focus on understanding why they disagreed and how to better handle it, instead of seeking to be right.

Resolving Conflicts

In the dating world, most intimate relationships don't turn into long-term commitments. This happens for different reasons: Some loving partners can't get past the challenges that ultimately end their commitment to each other. Some give up early, not wanting to waste time on something that is already problematic; they just aren't willing to put energy into a relationship that doesn't seem to be going anywhere.