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3 Forces That Shape Character

3 Forces That Shape Character

  • The input we consume
  • The relationships we pursue
  • The habits we acquire

 If we want to develop our character, we need to give attention to each of them.

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3 Forces That Shape Character

  • The input we consume
  • The relationships we pursue
  • The habits we acquire

 If we want to develop our character, we need to give attention to each of them.

The input we consume

We must be attentive to the input we consume. It affects us in deep and profound ways.

Avoid watching endless hours of mindless television or uncritically ingesting the worst of popular culture erodes character. Try instead reading books, listening to podcasts and attending conferences.

The relationships we pursue

We have to be more intentional about the people we choose to associate with:

  • If you want to lose weight, hang out with people who make good diet and exercise choices.
  • If you want a better marriage, socialize with people who have healthy ones.
  • If you want to make more money, associate with people who are successful.

The habits we acquire

These are simply the consistent ways we think, speak, and act in different situations. They are largely unconscious, which is what gives them their power—both positively and negatively.

Good habits lead to good outcomes. 

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