Codependent Couples - Deepstash

Codependent Couples

  • There may be an imbalance of power or one partner may have taken on responsibility for the other.
  • They’re often anxious and resentful and feel guilty and responsible for their partner’s feelings and moods.
  • They can feel trapped in the relationship because they fear that they cannot function on their own.
  • They can’t tolerate disagreement and blame one another for causing their problems without taking responsibility for themselves.

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