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Rhett M.

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Love a good conversation, it's how we grow. I strive to do be better at it.

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The friendship paradox

The paradox states that, on average, your friends are more popular than you are.


Sociologist Scott Feld first explained the friendship paradox in 1991 in the article "Why Your Friends Have More Friends Than You Do." He observed that most people have fewer friends than their friends have, on average. 

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Love & Family

The 'friendship paradox' doesn't always explain real friendships, mathematicians say

livescience.com

The power of eye contact

We intuitively understand the power of eye contact. It can say a thousand unspoken words. - from the stern look in your mother's face to the scrutinising gaze of the interviewer.

Highlights of what eye contact does:

  • It's arousing. Someone staring back at you could make you all sweaty.
  • It holds attention.
  • It makes people believe you.
  • It makes people think you're smart. We tend to judge people who make eye contact with us as more intelligent and competent.
  • It makes you seem more sincere.

The Levels of Eye Contact

markmanson.net

Resentment

A person who has experienced trauma is prone to feelings of resentment. This is not to say that they don't have the right to be angry, they do, but they don't process this anger and let go.

Resentful people hold on to the fiery experiences because they want to be able to throw the pain back to those who've hurt them. However, they would also hurt themselves in the process.

The Psychology of Resentment: What Do Resentful People Hide?

exploringyourmind.com

Controlling behavior

Control is a way for us to build relationships; it usually begins without any malicious intent but eventually it becomes clear that it isn't a great foundation for a healthy relationship or connection.

Conventionally 3 things make control easier: money, talent, or physical attractiveness.

Control has no place in love nor friendship

draudreyt.com

A toxic relationship

Is any relationship between people who don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there is competition and there is disrespect.

A toxic relationship is consistently unpleasant and draining for the people in it, to the point that negative moments outweigh and outnumber the positive ones.

How to Tell If You're in a Toxic Relationship

time.com

We normally interact and hang out with people whom we are comfortable with. They inhabit our 'Safe Harbor of the Known'.

Outside our comfort zone, there will be people who inspire, intrigue us, and annoy us. When you jump out of our comfort zone to be with people who challenge, push, and even irritate us, then we grow and reach our fullest potential.

Find Uncomfortable Friends

medium.com

Making sense of the world together

This is the secret of really good conversations.

Many of our best conversations, whether with people we have just met or with old friends, are about the world around us rather than ourselves. These are also often the conversations that bring us closer to each other.

What makes strangers click?

bbc.com

Straightforward people

Straightforward people are easy to be around with because we know exactly what the issues are from the start. There is no need to guess or infer or translate.

If they don't want to do something, they will politely tell you it's not for them. If they are unhappy with your behavior, they will gently tell you how they view the situation.

Straightforward vs. Complicated People

theschooloflife.com

Rekindling Of An Old Flame

Breakups and subsequent renewals are quite common across all types of romantic relationships and even marriages.

Falling apart and then seeking to mend the old relationship seems to be deeply rooted in our psychology.

Why is it so hard to forgive an ex?

bbc.com

Dating In The Times of Pandemic

As offline activities for dating couples have to be avoided, the dating brands of the internet have adapted themselves fast to accommodate virtual activities and in-build video chats. 

They are making full use of the available technology to help singles date anywhere in the world virtually, talk to live Dating Experts, and virtual happy hours.

How the pandemic killed hookup culture and saved romance

fastcompany.com

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