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Make Your Own Rules For Life

The right direction

Finding the right direction in life is something you create. You make the decision to act, to do something, no matter how small.

Once you have defined your aims and what you want, it is easier to deal with doubts. Easier not to get distracted from what is important, keep your focus, and keep moving.

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Make Your Own Rules For Life

Make Your Own Rules For Life

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Seneca

Seneca

“As long as you live, keep learning how to live.”

A personal Philosophy

We all need personal philosophy in life or we risk wandering and responding to random stimuli and information with little or no impact on our long-term goals.

Marcus Aurelius

Marcus Aurelius

“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.”

Living without purpose is dangerous

Nothing gives a person inner wholeness and peace like a distinct understanding of where they are going.

Until you settle on a purpose, your life is in danger of having little meaning. A life without a purpose is a life without a destination.

Søren Kierkegaard

Søren Kierkegaard

“Life must be understood backward. But it must be lived forward.”

The right direction

Finding the right direction in life is something you create. You make the decision to act, to do something, no matter how small.

Once you have defined your aims and what you want, it is easier to deal with doubts. Easier not to get distracted from what is important, keep your focus, and keep moving.

A sense of purpose

Successful people have a definite sense of direction. They have a clear understanding of what success means to them.

Everything they do is consistent with their goals. They look forward and decide where they want to be. Their day to day actions help them move closer to their vision.

Clarity changes everything

When you feel unclear about a goal, you have difficulty achieving it. And if you don’t know why you should do something, you lack committed to taking action.

With clarity, you can pull together resources, ideas and people for a common cause. Without it, there is wasted effort and even chaos.

Develop your personal clarity

  • Define what success means to you personally.
  • Create a vivid mental image of you as a success. This image should be as vivid as you can make it.
  • Clarify your personal values.

Developing a personal life philosophy

  • Understand who you are: A personal philosophy requires self-awareness, a desire to understand, and the ability to learn
  • Commit to looking for meaning and discerning what makes sense to you.
  • Follow your interests, and improve your basic understanding of life and living it.
  • Keep expanding your thinking. Study other philosophies. Gather philosophies from other people and books.

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  • The True North Group: You have a compass for life and know which direction is the correct way. When asked about your philosophy of life, you could explain it immediately and concisely.
  • The Dusty Compass Group: You have a compass for directing your life, but you don't always know how to use it. You may have a loosely organized philosophy but may not use it to filter and direct your experience.
  • The Inbox Group: You may not have a compass. Life may be about something, but you don't know. Your approach is to deal with life the way you manage email: You are just directing your attention to whatever lands in your inbox.
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The difference between the members of these three groups is internal. You won't be able to spot them instantly.

In general, it is better to live as a member of the True North group, provided you remain humble, curious, and open to the possibility you may be wrong.

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You need to have absolute clarity over 3 fundamental facts:

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In order to stay motivated, you need a purpose

Without purpose, motivation does not stand a chance.

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“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for a worthwhile goal, a freely chosen task.”

Improve your personal accountability

Making sure you hold yourself accountable in order to keep up the motivation and, therefore, accomplish your goals, is easier than it sounds.

All you have to do is to commit and express your commitment also in front of others. This will lead to you wanting to be consistent and, therefore, it will make it harder to give up.

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  • Should be coherent and make some sense.
  • Should be significant.
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In the last decades, organizations are increasingly becoming more global, complex, and demanding of workers’ time. In the always-on, always-connected work environment, boundaries are overlapping and combining. 

If you can’t adapt, can’t see situations in versatile ways, can’t find meaning in the most dreary circumstances, you might not survive.

The downsides of too much adapting

The downsides to always adapting, always flexible, always changing gears could lead to a lack of direction and commitment. In turn, a lack of direction could lead to failure.

We don’t want to entertain the possibility that it might fail. We just imagine that things are definitely going to work.

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Sense of curiosity

Curiosity creates a longing to know more, do more and be more.

To have a successful life, you have to cultivate your sense of wonder and be curious about what the future might hold. Curiosity helps you see any situation as an opportunity for your advancement and learning.

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It improves your ability to prioritize and it makes decision-making easier.

It also provides commitment: it's usually hard to commit to something that has no foreseeable future.

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It's part of the Swedish culture. It means “Not too little. Not too much. Just right.

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Happiness Is a Destination; Joy An Attitude

The vision of the life you desire is a destination you shouldn’t ignore as it’s key to understanding your happy place.

If happiness is the destination, joy is the milestone that leads there. Joy comes and passes through without the heaviness of it being a “final destination” because joy is an attitude.

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The Fear Trap

We make excuses for the following key reasons:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Embarrassment
  • Fear of Success
  • Fear of Change
  • Fear of Uncertainty
  • Fear of Responsibility
  • Fear of Making Mistakes
  • Perceived lack of confidence or resources
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'There’s just not enough time'
This excuse means a lack of desire, focus, discipline, and direction.
It suggests the wrong priorities or time management problems. It could also indicate laziness or procrastination.

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Authenticity is under threat

The idea of authenticity has been changed into an excuse to be cruel without feeling bad about it.

Reclaiming authenticity is essential because it is a key piece of a meaningful life.

Authenticity

Authenticity is about being your true self and not pretending to be someone else. It is also the way to take ownership and refine and improve your true self toward the best you can become.

Therefore, if your true self is aggressive, entitled or immature, you don't have permission to mistreat others.

Know yourself

You can only know yourself if you are honest and accepting of all the parts of you.

  • Acknowledge the good parts about yourself. This can include strengths, talents, knowledge, skills.
  • Don't overlook the bad parts. The bad of you will hurt others and sabotage your path toward a meaningful life.
  • There might also be ugly parts, like being awkward, off-putting, or distracting from the good.

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