Appreciating the why of where your intimate partner is coming from is a powerful means of building empathy (without giving up your own opinion) and empathy is deeply intimate.
Making the effort to understand another person demonstrate a deep degree of caring even in the context of disagreement.
"At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet." - Plato
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