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7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

Focus Only On Impressing Yourself

Focus Only On Impressing Yourself

People may like your things, but that doesn't mean they like you. A relationship not based on substance is not a real relationship.

Genuine relationships make you happier and leave you more mental energy to spend on those who really matter in your life. But they can only be established when you stop trying to impress and start being yourself. 

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7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/7-habits-of-people-with-remarkable-mental-toughness.html

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Act as If You Are In Total Control

Most successful people do feel good luck played some role in their success. But they don't wait for it or worry about bad luck. They act as if success or failure is totally within their control.

By not wasting mental energy worrying about what might happen to you, you can put all your effort into making things happen.

Ignore What You Can’t Influence

Mental strength isn’t an unlimited resource, don’t waste it on things you can’t control.

Do what you can. Be your own change--but don't try to make everyone else change.

See The Past as Training

Learn from your mistakes, and those from others too, but let them go. The past is just training; it doesn't define you.

When something bad happens, see it as an opportunity to learn something you didn't know. When another person makes a mistake, learn from it and see it as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.

Celebrate The Success Of Others

Some think the success of others diminishes their own. But resentment sucks up a massive amount of mental energy--energy better applied elsewhere.

Don't resent awesomeness. Create and celebrate awesomeness, wherever you find it, and in time you'll find even more of it in yourself.

Don’t Whine, Complain Or Criticize

Whining about your problems always makes you feel worse. So if something is wrong, put the energy you would waste complaining into making the situation better.

Don't talk about what's wrong. Talk about how you'll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself.

Focus Only On Impressing Yourself

People may like your things, but that doesn't mean they like you. A relationship not based on substance is not a real relationship.

Genuine relationships make you happier and leave you more mental energy to spend on those who really matter in your life. But they can only be established when you stop trying to impress and start being yourself. 

Count Your Blessings

Take a second every night before you turn out the light and, instead of worrying about what you don’t have, think about what you do have.

You have a lot to be thankful for. Feeling better about yourself is the best way of all to recharge your mental batteries.

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What Perspective Taking Is

It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.

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Develop perspective taking
  • Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective.
  • Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing.
  • Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has.
  • Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person.
  • Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations,  imagine how they are seeing the current situation.
  • Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is.
Using perspective taking

When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation. 

By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties.

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Quitting is underrated

Successful people quit (or proactively adjust) a lot more often than people who aren’t successful. They stay flexible and open to new ideas or opportunities or ways of getting things done.

But never quit something with great long-term potential just because you can’t deal with the stress at the moment

“Instead of continually trying to force yourself to do things you don’t want to do, let them go. Without the emotional weight and mental clutter of keeping things on your agenda that don’t absolutely need to be there, you’re much freer to rapidly move forward on what you really do want and need to get done.”

“Instead of continually trying to force yourself to do things you don’t want to do, let them go. Without the emotional weight and mental clutter of keeping things on your agenda that don’t absolutely need to be there, you’re much freer to rapidly move forward on what you really do want and need to get done.”

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Working Harder isn’t the Answer

We do it because it's the most visible form of productivity.

It is a way to prove to others that you are doing stuff and checking things off the list.

The Dose-Response Theory

Hard work is necessary in order to be productive, but there is such a thing as too much of a good thing.

At some point, you start to be negatively productive.

Prioritize Tasks by Energy Level

It means scheduling your time according to your natural rhythms:

  • Do your most important work at the beginning of the day if you are a morning person.
  • Don't feel bad about sleeping in because you stayed up late at night to work if you are a night owl.

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