MORE IDEAS FROM THE ARTICLE
The first step in recovery is to go home. We all have a home, whether in our friendships or in our family.
Our homes are like health insurance for the spirit. Your friends and family are there to protect you in your darkest times and insure your spirit is safe, sound and healthy. We all need connection in order to heal because love is the ultimate healer.
Grief is like a squall in the middle of the ocean. It comes without warning and despite how hard you try to avoid it or suppress it, you can’t. Let the tears, screams and sobs pour out of you.
Someone who holds onto the branch of one relationship and immediately swings to grab hold of the branch of a new relationship before letting go of the old one is like an orangutan.
If you hope to meet a life partner you must be whole and healed first. You have space and time to look back at the landscape of your relationship and learn from it, so you don’t make the same mistakes again.
The person we choose to be with becomes ingrained in our nervous system over time. The only way to get them out is to reboot our systems, just as we do with our computer.
It takes discipline and patience to rewire yourself.
Every relationship teaches us something. Even a toxic, abusive relationship has a curriculum we can learn from.
We will then be prepared for the world and able to meet a partner who will mirror the love we have for ourselves.
Having something on the horizon to plan for, get excited about and anticipate, propels us forward. It is vital to the healing process.
Everyone can plan something, whether it’s a day trip to a nearby town or a big trip somewhere far away.
Life is holding you accountable for all of your decisions because you know better now.
Until the day you meet the right partner, enjoy this life you've built full of friends, passions, travels and love.
Extreme grief, like losing a loved one is normally handled by an individual's support group of friends and family in stereotypical ways.
There seems to be a 'support gap' in which positive emotions like hope, gratitude, kindness, bravery, and resilience hardly find any mention during the grieving period.
If you can calculate the odds of living your life all over again, would you do the same things you are doing now? If you are 35 now, starting all over would make you 70. By 40, starting over will make you eighty.
If we don't seize the day, time will be running out to accomplish all the goals we have in mind.
We think once we have a fulfilling job, we'll be happy, or once we have a loving partner or children, we'll never feel dissatisfied again.
Yet, when we have all these things, we still feel negative and sad.